How to Give Signs to Your Crush You Like Him

Co-authored byImad Jbara

Dating Coach

June 11, 2020References

The thought of telling your crush that you like him might be a bit scary! If you're nervous about getting rejected, it can be helpful to show your crush that you like him before you talk about your feelings. You can hang out with him and give little hints with your body language, text messages, and attitude that let him know that you're interested in him.

Method 1 of 3:
Dropping Subtle Hints

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Invite him to hang out in a group if you only see each other in class. You have to spend time with him to make sure you're interested in him and let him know that you like him. Ask him if he wants to come with your friends to see a movie or study for an upcoming test in class. That will give you a chance to flirt with him in a group setting.^{[1]XResearch source}
- When you're hanging out in a group, you can pay extra attention to him to make sure he feels welcome and makes friends.
- If he doesn't like hanging out with your friends and you're comfortable with each other, ask if you can both hang out with his friends instead.
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Compliment him on something that other people might not notice. Sometimes, guys don't pick up on more subtle hints. However, if you tell him you think his new haircut looks really cute or notice that his new shoes are really cool, he'll probably be able to tell that you like him. You can also compliment him on his intelligence or other traits that you like.^{[2]XResearch source}
- For example, you might say something like, “That test was really hard! Your perfect score just proves that you're the smartest person in our class.”
- If you want to compliment his looks, you can say, “That shirt really brings out the color of your eyes. I love it!”
- You don't necessarily have to tell him that you think he's hot or the cutest person you've ever seen.
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Wait for him to show some interest in you. After you hint that you like him, give him some time to show you that he likes you. Sometimes, guys like to feel like they're making the first move, but are nervous about asking you out. Be patient and keep giving subtle signs until you're sure that he knows!^{[3]XResearch source}
- If you've been trying to get him to realize that you like him for a while, you might want to try telling him that you like him. In some cases, you just have to be straightforward!
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Dress nicely when you know you're going to be near him. This is a very subtle change that some guys might not notice, but can make you feel more confident around him. Put on an outfit that highlights your best features and is appropriate for whatever you're doing that day.^{[4]XResearch source}
- In general, a guy who is interested in you will probably notice if you're putting in extra effort to look nice for him.
- Remember, you can look nice even if you're doing something where you have to be active, like playing a sport or hanging out outside.
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Method 2 of 3:
Using Body Language

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Smile and show him that you're a warm and happy person. Being especially nice to your crush is a great way to show him that you like him. Laugh at his jokes and have a pleasant attitude around him. When you're having a conversation with him, smile and speak in a friendly and positive tone.^{[5]XResearch source}
- Try not to be overly happy, which can come off as fake and obnoxious. Just stay in a positive and pleasant mindset when he's around.
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Sit near him in class so you can work together. If your teacher lets you pick your seats, choose one next to him or in front of him. That way, he'll see you when you come into class and leave, and your teacher might pair you up for class projects. If you're confused, you can lean over and ask him for help, or offer to help him if he doesn't understand the topic.^{[6]XResearch source}
- Although sitting by your crush might be exciting, remember to pay attention in class and try not to talk while your teacher is speaking.
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Make eye contact while you're talking to him. During a conversation, look him in the eyes so that he knows you're giving him your full attention. Most people don't make eye contact when they're talking to someone, so this will make him feel special and important.^{[7]XResearch source}
- When you're having a conversation, be sure to ask questions and add your input when it's appropriate. This shows him that you're a good listener and someone who can hold a conversation.
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Touch him casually during conversation. Breaking the touch barrier is a huge step in your relationship and can be a more obvious signs to your crush that you like him. Lightly place your hand on his arm while he's talking or pat his hand to reassure him during a deeper conversation.^{[8]XResearch source}
- Another great way to initiate touching is by giving him a hug when you see him if you're comfortable with each other. If you do it enough, he'll learn to expect it when he sees you!
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Method 3 of 3:
Flirting Over Text

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Give him your number and invite him to text you whenever he wants to. If you really like your crush and want to take things to the next level, texting is a great way to communicate. Giving him your number shows him that you're interested and opens up a way for the two of you to get to know each other better.^{[9]XResearch source}
- Alternatively, you can playfully steal his phone and send a message to yourself so that you both have each other's number. Then, say something like, “Here, I did you a favor and put my number in your phone!”
- To most guys, this is a really clear sign that someone is interested in getting to know them.
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Imad Jbara
Dating Coach
Imad Jbara is a Dating Coach for NYC Wingwoman LLC, a relationship coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Imad services 100+ clients, men and women, to improve their dating lives through authentic communication skills. He has a BA in Psychology from the University of Massachusetts Dartmouth.
Imad Jbara
Dating Coach
Our Expert Agrees: Use texting as a way to keep things interesting between real-life encounters. When you're texting, it's hard to be spontaneous and show who you really are, and it's easy for someone else to misinterpret what you're saying. If you want to date someone, the best way to use texting is for setting up a time to meet in person. That way, they'll get to know you and your sense of humor, and you can build on things from there.
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Ask him what his plans are for the weekend if you want to hang out. This is a great way to get him thinking about spending time with you. Send a short and simple text saying, “Are you doing anything exciting this weekend?” to see how he responds. He might even ask you to hang out if he's not busy!^{[10]XResearch source}
- If he says that he is busy, you can say, something like “Aw man, I was going to invite you to go hiking with me.”
- If you're nervous about hanging out with him, say something like, “I'm spending time with my family, but we should totally see a movie together soon!” Then, you can see if he responds positively.
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Tease him a little to start a conversation. If you're close with him, show him your sense of humor by poking fun at him. He'll more than likely appreciate the fact that you're funny, and he'll be able to tease you back. Sometimes, this can catch guys by surprise, but they tend to like it!^{[11]XResearch source}
- For example, when he first texts you, you can say something like “Who's this?” and then say “Just kidding, of course I remember you!”
- Remember that not everyone responds well to being teased. Never make fun of your crush for something that he might be insecure about.
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Respond to his messages as soon as you can. Texting really only works when both people are talking, so shoot back a quick response to his messages whenever you get the chance. You don't have to have your phone at all times, but you should try to get back to him as soon as you can after he texts you to show him that you're interested in the conversation.^{[12]XResearch source}
- Try to make sure your texts continue the conversation. Ask questions and share your thoughts instead of just saying “lol” or “omg,” which can be hard to respond to.
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Avoid sending too many text messages at one time. Getting bombarded with messages can be overwhelming and annoying and make him less likely to want to talk to you. As a general rule, try to only send 1-2 text messages at once, and give him a chance to respond before you send another.^{[13]XResearch source}
- Don't send a lot of messages when you know he can't respond, like when he's sleeping or in class.
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What if he's popular and a lot of people have a crush on him?
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Try to make yourself stand out from others with your personality and kindness. Show him that you're a good person by reassuring him that you're there if he ever needs to talk, and ask him to hang out whenever he's free. Try your best not to get jealous of other people and focus on making your connection with him stronger.
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What should I do if he likes someone else?
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Focus on making your relationship stronger by being friends. If you're there for him and support him even when he's not dating you, he'll know that you really care about him. When he's not interested in anyone else, be more forward with him by flirting, making plans to hang out more, and texting him more often.
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I've known my crush for a few months and we're friends. We have class together and sit in front of each other. What if I tell him how I feel and things become awkward?
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Instead of confessing your feelings right away, consider giving smaller hints to him. Start by touching his hand when you're talking or giving him compliments when you see him. Suggest that you should hang out together outside of class and do more romantic things, like seeing movies or going to lunch together. That way, he'll have an idea that you like in him without making you confess your feelings.
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What if the person I like lives in a different country and I see them only two to three times a year?
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Try to talk regularly over social media, texting, or video calls to keep up your friendship. When you're in the same area, make plans to hang out together. Be extra nice to him to show him that you're interested in him, and talk to him about his feelings if you think he might be interested in you.
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Try to engage in conversation with him.
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Always be yourself around your crush. You want them to like you for who you are so that you can have a positive and happy relationship.
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If you catch him staring at you, stare back a little. Then break eye contact. Or be the person to stare first!
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